Glennon Doyle is a task mannequin to so many ladies. She’s daring, assured & unapologetically herself.
The primary guide of hers that I learn was Love Warrior. She shares her battle with bulimia, alcoholism & discovering out about her husband’s infidelities. Subsequent up, I learn Untamed, the bestseller that you simply’ve in all probability heard all about. Then, to deliver it full circle ( & as a result of I simply wanted extra Glennon ) I learn Carry On, Warrior.
Through Instagram, I reached out to her & proposed that Michael & I fly to Naples, Florida to interview her for The Skinny Confidential HIM & HER podcast. We booked the journey & it was so price it to interview her in particular person. That is one in all my FAVORITE EPISODES, a lot in order that I listened to my very own podcast AGAIN. Positively to not hear the sound of my very own voice, however to absorb much more Glennon.
There are such a lot of takeaways on this episode however I wished to share my high 5 with you. After studying this put up you’ll wish to go pay attention, & you’ll fucking like it. I promise.
Not solely is Glennon Doyle a finest promoting creator, she is an activist & thought chief who has raised over $25 million for girls, youngsters & households in disaster.
With that, let’s get to Glennon’s phrases of knowledge.
High 5 Takeaways From Interviewing Glennon Doyle:
♡ We’re conditioned for internalized misogyny.
The extra highly effective, blissful & profitable a person turns into, the extra folks like & belief him. The extra highly effective, blissful & profitable a girl turns into, the much less folks like her & belief her.
Glennon began noticing that folks would inform her at talking occasions that they discovered it laborious to narrate to her when she stopped speaking about dependancy, bulimia & her hardships. When her focus went to Untamed, being in a cheerful marriage & being profitable, folks overtly informed her they couldn’t relate to her.
Society is conditioned to desire a lady to be unsure, humble, & quiet. When a girls steps out of these traits, it makes us uncomfortable. After we see these traits in a person it additionally makes us uncomfortable as a result of we’re conditioned to assume a person ought to be a ‘man.’
Glennon even talks about how she falls into this unconscious, knee-jerk response.
♡ Social media is an effective way to look at & change your ideas.
It’s a lot simpler to dismiss or spew hate on social media than it’s in actual life. Glennon says social media could be a useful gizmo for observing your ideas. I believe that is such a superb tip to assist change our thought course of, particularly in the case of a girl you ‘simply don’t like, however don’t know why.’ As a result of proper?
Have you ever ever seen a brilliant sizzling lady, or a brilliant assured lady & earlier than you may even give it some thought you discover your self simply not liking her however you don’t know why??? ‘There’s simply one thing about her.’ That is our internalized misogyny – the ‘knee-jerk’ response Glennon talks about. However one of the best factor about that is that we are able to change it.
So subsequent time you’re scrolling your feed & you assume a thought just like the above, STOP, ask your self WHY??? Why does it irk or trouble me that this lady was tremendous into her nails/hair/physique/bikini/outfit so wished to take an image & share it?
♡ Our lives are in fixed response mode.
That is one in all my favourite elements since you may need heard me say earlier than that it’s so necessary ( for me ) to create space to create. If I spent my complete day answering emails & messages I might be continually engaged on different folks’s to-do lists.
Personally, I relate to this a lot. That is the primary time in historical past that folks can get ahold of different folks continually, on a regular basis. Glennon describes what this looks like so completely within the podcast. At any time of time, it doesn’t matter what you’re doing, somebody can mainly textual content you, name you, e-mail you, DM you & demand one thing of you. And identical to that somebody has issued you an IOU.
All of us have to be considering extra about what WE wish to do & create with our days. Typically it’s a must to disappoint different folks to not disappoint your self, which we get into far more within the episode.
The talent of listening is so necessary, particularly proper now in 2020. As a former faculty trainer, Glennon says she will’t consider a extra necessary human attribute than listening.
Individuals don’t wish to be fastened, they don’t need recommendation, they don’t need folks to narrate to them, they only want a witness. It’s laborious to chew our tongues & simply LISTEN.
Our alternative to truly hearken to somebody comes EVERY SINGLE TIME somebody talks to us. Cease ready to your flip to speak, get comfy with pauses & silence, cease planning what you’re going to say when the opposite particular person stops speaking. Permit it to occur.
♡ Social constructs turn out to be cages.
These constructs may be so many issues: gender, faith, sexuality, politics, nationality, and so forth. An instance of this might be a bit boy taking part in on the playground at college begins who begins crying, so the others begin attacking as a result of he’s breaking out of his ‘cage.’
Most individuals who establish with these social constructs sacrifice numerous themselves for cover from the others of their group. It’s basically abandoning your self to not abandon your sense of belonging, whether or not that’s in your loved ones, faith, good friend group- you get it.
♡ If you happen to think about extra for your self, then possibly you have been made for extra.
We now have one life & it’s so quick. Glennon goes into what her relationship was like along with her husband after he cheated, however this recommendation doesn’t solely apply to relationships. It may very well be your job, your community-whatever.
When you’ve got a need or want for extra from any side of your life, it’s okay. It doesn’t imply you’re ungrateful ( which girls are particularly conditioned to really feel if so ). However you don’t get what you need or want with out SHARING it. You’ll want to converse up & say what you need, in any other case how does your important different or employer know?
A whole lot of the time we’re so afraid of the response & that will probably be the ‘catalyst to the top’ ( as Glennon places it ), that we don’t converse as much as dwell the life that we would like.
You’ll want to comply with @glennondoyle on Instagram. Her & her spouse Abby Wambach ( Olympic medalist ) actually are simply the cutest. You’ll want to pay attention till the top as a result of Glennon has some killer guide recs, one which I’m already studying & loving.
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